I hope the information I provided somehow helped you to think over your strategies on winning your child custody right. But if you truly want the best chance of winning, then you have to get help from the experts. You definitely need to discuss the matter over with your child custody attorney, but you also can see what other strategies these two people have to offer. They are the ones whose product my girlfriends referred to additional tips. I checked out their website and here's some information for you.
First, the product - Custody Strategies - is very specialized, so much so that it has information relative to whether you are the mother or father of the child. Depending on who you are, there are different strategies for you. The product separate the strategies to cater for either parent.
Who are behind the book? Well, the book is written by two people who have over 30 years experience with child custody, Dr. Barry Bricklin and Dr. Gail Elliot.Both of them have very long CVs....
Dr. Bricklin is a psychologist in private practice. He is an Adjunct Associate Professor at Widener University and has also previously served on the faculty of a couple of Universities. Dr Bricklin has served as a consultant in psychology to the Walter Reed Army Hospital Research Center, to the United States Army, to the New York Academy of Medicine, and to the Columbia Broadcasting System.
Dr. Elliot is Head, Child Development and Family Processes Research, Bricklin Associates, the Vice Chair of the Professional Academy of Custody Evaluators and a psychologist in private practice. She has served as a consultant to public and private schools and coordinated multidisciplinary treatment plans. She was responsible for devising for Bricklin Associates an information-processing oriented educational therapy technique and a comprehensive college entrance service for children with serious motivational problems and low self-esteem problems.
So you can see that these people are professionals in this matter.
The book (Child Custody Strategies for Women) has 15 hard hitting chapters in it, starting with the role of bias in these cases. It then goes into the most frequently made errors, 14 key strategies, all outlined in detail, false assumptions, strategies that can be used against you, (very important) what your lawyer should do for you, how to get your lawyer to work harder for you, the bribed or manipulated child, physical disability, how to control costs, the best approach to use, costs involved, how to make sure a custody evaluator has the proper expertise to carry out an evaluation, what to do if you believe an evaluation has been biased.
In short, these two doctors have left nothing out. I think you will find this book to be quite thorough.
And that one book is just a fraction of what you get. I won’t go into the rest of it because there is just too much to go over. Essentially, you get a whole child custody package that will provide you with everything you will need.
At the very least, go to their site and see what they have to offer. After all, the custody of your child is at risk here and you do want to make sure that you’ve done everything possible to give yourself the best chance to win this battle.
Go to their site.
To stand the best chance of winning your child custody - get a good attorney
Yep, having a good child custody attorney to work on your case can make a whole deal lot of difference.
When my girlfriends were in the process of their child custody battle with their ex, they were literally fighting for their life because their child meant so much to them. If you are in this situation right now, before you begin that fight, you might want to read how you can stand the best chance of winning custody of your child.
All my friends who had gone through the ordeal agreed that the first thing to do is get a good child custody lawyer. I can understand that you are worried about the lawyer fees and wondering how much a good child custody attorney will charge, right? But, seriously, fees or charges is not your main concern now. You'll want to get the best because your child deserves it. Otherwise, you might as well save yourself all the trouble and just hand the kid over to your ex.
One unusual tactic that one of my friends used was that, besides pointing out the weaknesses of her ex when testifying, she actually pointed out what was good about him. We didn't quite understand how this strategy work, but it seemed that the strategy worked very well in her case. And who came up with the strategy? Her attorney, of course!
But then, not all of my girlfriends relied on their child custody attorney 100% of the time. They also did their own research to look for proven winning child custody strategies information.
A couple of them actually took advice from a book written by two of America's most famous custody experts. While I personally have not read it (and pray that I never have to!), I heard that the book has been of great help to them in their custody fight. If you want to be well prepared for your child custody battle, you might want to check out the book here.
When my girlfriends were in the process of their child custody battle with their ex, they were literally fighting for their life because their child meant so much to them. If you are in this situation right now, before you begin that fight, you might want to read how you can stand the best chance of winning custody of your child.
All my friends who had gone through the ordeal agreed that the first thing to do is get a good child custody lawyer. I can understand that you are worried about the lawyer fees and wondering how much a good child custody attorney will charge, right? But, seriously, fees or charges is not your main concern now. You'll want to get the best because your child deserves it. Otherwise, you might as well save yourself all the trouble and just hand the kid over to your ex.
One unusual tactic that one of my friends used was that, besides pointing out the weaknesses of her ex when testifying, she actually pointed out what was good about him. We didn't quite understand how this strategy work, but it seemed that the strategy worked very well in her case. And who came up with the strategy? Her attorney, of course!
But then, not all of my girlfriends relied on their child custody attorney 100% of the time. They also did their own research to look for proven winning child custody strategies information.
A couple of them actually took advice from a book written by two of America's most famous custody experts. While I personally have not read it (and pray that I never have to!), I heard that the book has been of great help to them in their custody fight. If you want to be well prepared for your child custody battle, you might want to check out the book here.
How to get custody of your child - increase your chances
Child custody is one of the most emotionally draining things anybody can go through. And it truly is an ugly process. All of us have seen enough of that in movies. And it's not any better (actually it can be worse!) in real life. If you want to give yourself the best chance of getting custody of your child, there are a few ways to go about it which my cousin shared with me, and in turn I will share them here.
One thing you must be clear of is that, no matter how ugly this whole process is, your goal is to win, and not to be an angle or a saint. So, you have to show as much documentation as you can of abuse by the other parent, either towards you or towards the child. It will be even better if this can be verified by visits to the emergency room for bruises or other injuries, or show photos of this abuse. Like I said…this is an ugly process. The truth behind all child custody wars.
On the other end, you want to paint yourself in the best possible light. First of all, please dress properly for the hearings and behave well. Get as many character witnesses as you can to testify to your parenting of the child. Before the hearing, collect as many 'evidence' as you can to prove that you have always had the child’s best interests at the top of your mind. This is going to help your case a big time.
The next one may be tough, but you want to be able to discredit any witnesses that your ex calls against you. Bring out whatever dirt about them that you can to reduce the significance of their testimony, such as they're unemployed, they're always get drunk, they’re irresponsible towards their own children, whatever.
One very, very crucial point - because obviously you won't be able to do this alone - make sure you get yourself a lawyer who specializes in child custody AND who has an outstanding winning record. When you meet your child custody lawyer, be blunt and ask all questions upfront. You want to know how many cases he handles, and how many he has won. You need to make sure this because you're fighting for your child custody and you want only the best to help you win this custody war.
One thing you must be clear of is that, no matter how ugly this whole process is, your goal is to win, and not to be an angle or a saint. So, you have to show as much documentation as you can of abuse by the other parent, either towards you or towards the child. It will be even better if this can be verified by visits to the emergency room for bruises or other injuries, or show photos of this abuse. Like I said…this is an ugly process. The truth behind all child custody wars.
On the other end, you want to paint yourself in the best possible light. First of all, please dress properly for the hearings and behave well. Get as many character witnesses as you can to testify to your parenting of the child. Before the hearing, collect as many 'evidence' as you can to prove that you have always had the child’s best interests at the top of your mind. This is going to help your case a big time.
The next one may be tough, but you want to be able to discredit any witnesses that your ex calls against you. Bring out whatever dirt about them that you can to reduce the significance of their testimony, such as they're unemployed, they're always get drunk, they’re irresponsible towards their own children, whatever.
One very, very crucial point - because obviously you won't be able to do this alone - make sure you get yourself a lawyer who specializes in child custody AND who has an outstanding winning record. When you meet your child custody lawyer, be blunt and ask all questions upfront. You want to know how many cases he handles, and how many he has won. You need to make sure this because you're fighting for your child custody and you want only the best to help you win this custody war.
What you must know to win your child custody
Although I was just an outsider, but seeing what my girlfriends went through, I can say it out loud that two parents fighting over custody of their child is one of the most heartbreaking experience in the world! Regardless of why the parents ended up going their separate ways, each of them loves the child, maybe even more than their own lives. Yet, whatever the outcome is, either one of you is going to walk away from this totally broken hearted and devastated. Obviously, you don't want that person to be you!
If you want to win your child custody rights, take hard note of these few things.
The first thing you need to know is that each state has different laws when it comes to child custody (as well as divorce laws). There will be different solutions to the problem. So, you should first find out the child custody laws in your state.
Just like what has been shown on movies, divorce and child custody battle are always hard on the man and woman. But don't forget about your child! I remembered how sad, miserable and afraid my friends' children looked over the course of the custody battle. If you think the process it tormenting for the adults, it's even difficult for that littler person who is in the middle of all this. So, what you want to do is to reassure your child that they are still loved by both of you, and that none of what’s going on is their fault.
About attending the court, there are several things to take note if you want to have the best chance of winning the custody of your child. From my friends' cases, I can see that appearance, behavior and attitude in the court are very important. Dress properly and act properly. Imagine, if you're drunk and don't wear a clean suit, what do you think your chances are?
Finally, behave yourself in court. Don’t lose your temper, don’t act like a jerk. One of my friends had an emotional outrage in the court, threw bad words at her ex, and refused to calm herself down. Her chances of winning her child custody was already not good in the first place. Her misbehavior finally cost her the custody of her child.
So, if you want to win your child custody, please be really, really, really mentally well prepared.
If you want to win your child custody rights, take hard note of these few things.
The first thing you need to know is that each state has different laws when it comes to child custody (as well as divorce laws). There will be different solutions to the problem. So, you should first find out the child custody laws in your state.
Just like what has been shown on movies, divorce and child custody battle are always hard on the man and woman. But don't forget about your child! I remembered how sad, miserable and afraid my friends' children looked over the course of the custody battle. If you think the process it tormenting for the adults, it's even difficult for that littler person who is in the middle of all this. So, what you want to do is to reassure your child that they are still loved by both of you, and that none of what’s going on is their fault.
About attending the court, there are several things to take note if you want to have the best chance of winning the custody of your child. From my friends' cases, I can see that appearance, behavior and attitude in the court are very important. Dress properly and act properly. Imagine, if you're drunk and don't wear a clean suit, what do you think your chances are?
Finally, behave yourself in court. Don’t lose your temper, don’t act like a jerk. One of my friends had an emotional outrage in the court, threw bad words at her ex, and refused to calm herself down. Her chances of winning her child custody was already not good in the first place. Her misbehavior finally cost her the custody of her child.
So, if you want to win your child custody, please be really, really, really mentally well prepared.
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