Although I was just an outsider, but seeing what my girlfriends went through, I can say it out loud that two parents fighting over custody of their child is one of the most heartbreaking experience in the world! Regardless of why the parents ended up going their separate ways, each of them loves the child, maybe even more than their own lives. Yet, whatever the outcome is, either one of you is going to walk away from this totally broken hearted and devastated. Obviously, you don't want that person to be you!
If you want to win your child custody rights, take hard note of these few things.
The first thing you need to know is that each state has different laws when it comes to child custody (as well as divorce laws). There will be different solutions to the problem. So, you should first find out the child custody laws in your state.
Just like what has been shown on movies, divorce and child custody battle are always hard on the man and woman. But don't forget about your child! I remembered how sad, miserable and afraid my friends' children looked over the course of the custody battle. If you think the process it tormenting for the adults, it's even difficult for that littler person who is in the middle of all this. So, what you want to do is to reassure your child that they are still loved by both of you, and that none of what’s going on is their fault.
About attending the court, there are several things to take note if you want to have the best chance of winning the custody of your child. From my friends' cases, I can see that appearance, behavior and attitude in the court are very important. Dress properly and act properly. Imagine, if you're drunk and don't wear a clean suit, what do you think your chances are?
Finally, behave yourself in court. Don’t lose your temper, don’t act like a jerk. One of my friends had an emotional outrage in the court, threw bad words at her ex, and refused to calm herself down. Her chances of winning her child custody was already not good in the first place. Her misbehavior finally cost her the custody of her child.
So, if you want to win your child custody, please be really, really, really mentally well prepared.
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Hi, I'm Serena Lukeson. I've seen few of my girl friends and cousins whose marriage turned sour and ended up fighting for child custody with their ex-husband. Being their friend, I was with them when they went through their ordeals, and picked up a few 'lessons' about child custody myself. So I'm sharing what I saw and learned so that other moms too can stand a better chance in winning their child custody.
